SHOULD I BE HONEST TO MY WIFE or wear a mask throughout my life?

When I was a boy of 14/15 of age, I was very handsome, that was the reason, I believe, for my whole tragedy. I was sent by my parents to a Tution Teacher. The teacher, after her divorce, was living alone in my neighbouring rented villa with an old housemaid. One day the teacher found out a half-naked film star's photo from my book, believe me, still now I don't know how it came there. Showing this photo, the teacher started black-mailing me threatening that she would inform my dad, who was a strict Senior Police Officer. Gradually she started sexually abusing me. This continued for about 3 yrs, untill I went out-of-state for my higher studies. After my Commercial graduation, I joined in a Bank as a Credit Officer in my home-town. 2 months back I married an average, innocent, village girl, who knows only to love me. Now again the Teacher-the Vampire- appeared with a threat to disclose everything to my wife, unless I obey her as before. Shall I disclose myself everything to my wife?SHOULD I BE HONEST TO MY WIFE or wear a mask throughout my life?
Tell your wife everything you can. By that I mean, I know it's probably hard for you to relive what that sorry excuse for a woman did but please try.





You are older now %26amp; much emotionally stronger than that 15yr old boy. You have never done anything wrong so don't act as though you have. She is the adult in the situation %26amp; SHE is the one who should be embarressed.





Out her to your wife, that will take some pressure off you as the woman will have no means by which to threaten you. THEN threaten her that you are going to go to the police %26amp; disclose everything if she does not leave you alone. Tell her you are not afraid anymore but that she should be.





Usually these types of people are bullies and getting it turned on them is enough to make them back down. I know. I had to get an aprehensive violence order against my step father to MAKE him leave me alone.





Fight the battle ~ it IS worth having your life back. Bless.SHOULD I BE HONEST TO MY WIFE or wear a mask throughout my life?
For God sakes you`re an adult now, how can you be threatened by a teacher who is the one guilty of sexually molesting a minor. Actually you are a threat to her as you should report her for her earlier misconduct. Tell your wife by all means, after all, were you not a minor when you were taken advantage of. Your wife should be able to understand and stand by your side in reporting the teacher to the police. It was she who committed the crime, not you.
Yes tell her everything. She loves you so she will be understanding. I would also suggest getting a restraining order on the teacher. good luck
You should tell your wife.


the Vampire


probably put that picture


in your book to use it as an excuse.


If the Vampire


tells your wife


she will make things up.


so you should tell your wife


so that she can know how things really happened.


Good Luck.
definitely tell her the truth. why not first of all who cares what you did in your past and second of all she loves you and you love her love doesn't lie and neither should you
You should not only tell your wife but report this teacher to stop her from doing that to anyone else. By not saying anything is the same as standing by while someone else has to go through what you went through. The teacher is a sick person and not fit to be around children. You have the power to save someone from this.
You wish you were at the centre of this exciting and sinful triangle, don't you. Don't worry, someday you'll be all grown up and then you'll have a date, and eventually a girlfriend too.
Aren't you a grown-up now? You should have reported the teacher long ago. It's against the law you know to sexually abuse children. You should have reported this to your father. Tell the ';b'; to get off your back or you are reporting her sexually abusing you. That is so wrong. Tell the truth to your wife. You've done nothing wrong! I hate people who do that to people. They are sick, sick, sick. She/he needs to spend some time in prison.
i would be honest with your wife and everyone else!!! seems to me like honesty will set you free. more than likely teacher was the one who planted the half-naked stars photo in the first place!!!
Yeah there's nothing wrong with porno
Yes, tell your wife, tell her all of it, she will correct the problem with this lady. This person is trying to control you with blackmail, put a stop to and and I would turn her in for child abuse, because if she did it to you, she is still doing it to others. Oh, and by the way she probably planted the picture in your book, to trap you.
yeah, its better to reveal all what happened to ur past rather to wait that she's hurt bcoz she knew thru other people...





no need to b blackmailed now, ur adult now n not a teenage boy..u can sue d teacher if u want
I think it would be best to tell everything to your wife.


Also, consider to put a stop to this harassing that has been bugging you for a long time, why don't you blotter this person in the police station for harassment, to give her a lesson, and eventually peace to you.
thats what u got maiired for, to be faithfull to her...
You're no longer a boy. If you are now truly a man....you'll tell your wife.





Do not let this conundrum go on and turn into a very melodramatic off-off-Broadway tragedy!
the only answer is to tell your wife. This way the teacher has nothing to threaten you with. If your wife really loves you (I'm sure she does) she will know that none of this was your fault. you should go to the police and report this woman. Maybe she is still doing this type of thing to young men. Maybe you can save someone else from this.


I wish you the best. I really hope you choose to tell your wife.
first off marriage is about honesty...i feel that if u can come on yahoo answers and pretty much give out ur life secret..then u can be honesty and tell the love of ur life the same thing with no problem at all...BE HONEST AND TELL HER..then tell the teacher to go to H3LL
You want this person to have control of your life from here on out? Tell the truth and be done with it. If she really loves you, she will be on your side and the vampire will get a wooden stake in her heart.
Tell your wife. She loves you and will understand. Once you tell your wife the teacher has lost the power over you. Sexual abuse is about power and control. Take that power away from those who would hurt you. I know you can do it.
Tell your wife about the picture you found in your book and what your teacher did to you.





If she finds out any other way it will not be good, trust me.


And if she finds you ';cheating'; on her with your teacher, well, that won't end well either.





Tell her the truth and trust your love is true and she can trust you.
Yes, tell your wife that this has happened to you, and then go to the police. What that woman was, and is, doing is illegal. Tell her next time she contacts you, that you won't pay anymore, in any way, and if she persists, that YOU will go to the police and put her in jail! That should give you the freedom you deserve. No one should be treated the way you were.


Take the control away from her, and you will have the power to make the best of your life and your marriage.
yes tell her. if ur wife loves u shell only want to help you.

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